"Because it's a professional service and an hour of my time." I said as pleasantly and as evenly as I could.
"It's an hour of our time, too!" she replied, "and we're just coming to find out whether we want to do this or not."
I'm still shaking my head and trying to calm an indignation that would very much like to stomp around the house for the next several hours.
It's the same thing as asking a restaurant to give you your first meal for free so you can decide whether you'll want to eat there again.
Or going to see a doctor, lawyer, or accountant for advice and not expecting be billed.
During a lesson I give much more of myself than just the knowledge acquired during 13 years offering private vocal instruction. (Plus 20 years of training, a university degree, a teaching credential, and ongoing performing, directing, studio experience, and professional development.)
In each lesson, I constantly work to be alert to the needs and development of each student. I want the lesson experience to meet the individual's musical needs, build their skills and confidence as a performer, while making the lesson time an enjoyable experience.
It's a delicate dance to reinforce what the student is doing well, balanced with carefully attention toward details to be adjusted, along with the tools and motivation needed to work on those adjustments during their independent practice time in the coming week.
Teaching voice and piano is something I love to do. Making music is something we, the student and I, do for the joy of it.
And it is also a professional service. I'm just glad the type of encounter I had with this particular parent is extremely rare.
A closer look at my schedule reveals that my studio IS rather full at the moment. Not an exaggeration. My session with the student this coming week--not the parent's attitude toward the value and professionalism of private music teachers--will determine whether or not I add them to my "Waiting List" or to my teaching studio's schedule.
Both joy and professionalism must be safeguarded through the thoughtful selection of those with whom one chooses to share one's time, energy, and knowledge.
(c)2009 Kay Pere ~ Effusive Muse Publishing

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